Mar 09 2010
does engagement ring have to stay on left hand after you are married?
…ok, I know it doesn’t “have” to…but does anyone do that? I adore my engagement ring, and want to continue to wear it after we are married, but it is an antique gold ring and I prefer to wear silver.
We are purchasing wedding rings this week, and the one’s that keep catching my eye are silver.
Thoughts?
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Normally you wear it on the outside of your wedding band on the right hand.
if you have a simple gold band then no, but if your a shiny silver diamond one, then you might want to wear another one
Most women have matching engagement and wedding bands, so wear them together.
In your case, you can wear it on the other hand, just as you would a dress ring.
The engagement ring is handed to either the mother or maid of honor during the wedding ceremony. After the ceremony is over, then the ring is handed back to the bride. The wedding ring goes on first, (closest to the hand) and the engagement ring is next to go on the ring finger. You can have them saudered together so they will stay in place.
ive always known people wear there engagement ring, and wedding band on there left hand. i think its personal preference. but gold and silver are not supposed to be put together (so some say) but if your engagement ring is as beautiful as you say, try putting them together and they may work..
Well, even though it is Gold, and you want a silver marriage ring, you should still wear it. Yes, they may not match, but so what. You are to wear the rings to show you’re love of you husband or wife. And if you do that, even though they don’t match, you’re showing your love even more, and let your little spouse know just that.
Or, if you really need to have them matching, (I understand) then let a gold ring catch your eye, maybe, you might just find a perfect gold ring. And if it’s the design of the silver ring you like, then you can always ask the person that works there, if they can make a gold ring in that design. But whatever you do, just know it’s not about how things look. It’s to show that you love the person you married. And if you really are having trouble choosing a ring, think about it for awhile. Remember, you have to wear these rings for the rest of your life, (or at least as long as you are married).
I have a dream engagement ring, but no wedding ring fit next to it or complement it b/c of it’s shape. So, I wear my wedding ring, which can stand by itself, on my left hand, and my engagement ring on my right ring finger.
i think is better if it stays in ur left hand next to ur weddin ring but its ur choice.And silver is gorgeous
A lot of people wear their engagement ring and wedding band on the same finger, with the wedding band “closest to the heart” and the engagement ring on top of it. I personally am going to get the rings welded together so I can wear them on the same finger without them swiveling around all the time. I have also heard of some people wearing their engagement ring as a right-hand ring after they get married, or saving it for special occasions when they want a little extra “bling.” I purposely picked out a small diamond solitaire on a plain white-gold band when we went engagement ring shopping, because I knew I wanted to wear the bands together and I didn’t want it to look too gaudy or ostentatious with both rings on the same finger. However, if you have a much more elaborate ring with a lot of diamonds, or a great big solitaire or something, it probably wouldn’t be a bad idea to wear them on separate hands or something.
For the whole gold and silver thing you’re having trouble with, I personally agree that I like white gold (the kind that looks silver) much better than yellow gold. However, it is an heirloom ring, and therefore has sentimental (as well as probably monetary) value. If I were you, I’d buy a very lovely white-gold wedding band with some small diamonds around it and wear only that after getting married, and then either wear the engagement ring on the other hand or keep it locked up in a safe-deposit box to give to your child someday.
well some people don’t wear their engagement ring after they get married. so that choice is up to you. i would talk to your intended about that. maybe you two can get a chain for it so you can wear it as a necklace or something.
usually you wear the engagement ring with the wedding band, but that isn’t always feasible so I know more and more people that are either not wearing the engagement ring at all or are opting to move the engagement ring to another hand or finger.
Until recently woman didn’t have engagement rings. Even now, I know quite a few woman who don’t wear theirs.
In all reality, they can be cumbersome. It’s not natural to have something sticking up above your hand. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve caught mine on something. If I were you, I’d put the antique away, wear it on your right hand on special occasions. You can pick up a small diamond ring that will be the ‘token’ e-ring, for about $300.
Good luck, and Congratulations!
Traditionally, yes…but there is nothing written in stone and as you prefer “silver” (a less expensive lower quality alloy than gold or platinum or white gold) Then perhaps you can simply wear the antique gold ring on the ring finger of the right hand and the “silver” set on the Left (traditionally where the engagement ring/wedding set is to be worn) You could wear the ring on a chain or have the stone(s) re-set in “silver” to wear along with your wedding set. They are your rings, it is your finger, the symbols of your unity with your husband can be worn as you see fit and as you prefer…It’s up to you – not society to tell you how you wish to jewel yourself. My husband and I personally broke tradition because my promise ring is a solitaire round half carat stone passed down from my family and given to my husband to give to me when he requested my hand from my father, My engagement ring is a three stone (yesterday, today, and tomorrow) one carat total weight and my wedding band is worn between the two with my engagement ring to the back and my promise ring to the front. When the promise ring is passed down through our children I will be wearing the three stone ring behind the band as I do now. The choice is yours Hun, figure out what you think looks, feels, and functions best for you.
Silver is not a metal I would reccomend for a wedding band because..
1….it tarnishes and constant polishing will slowly wear the ring away as it removes silver (on the mircroscopic level) everytime you polish it…the tarnish is silver oxide which forms when the oxygen in the air touches the silver…the molecules of each want to bond and they do, on the surface…causing a film of silver oxide from the chemical re-action. As jewelry you switch out depending on your outfits, I Love sterling silver-most of my pieces are sterling.
2 silver is soft compared to the gold jewelry sold (actually gold alloys, no jewelry is 100% gold as it’s way too soft)
It’ll pit, scratch even bend with constant use…
Now white gold , platinum, and yes, even stainless steel are white metals that have a ’silver’ look and are used in wedding bands. Platinum has a soft silvery-gray look…gorgeous. Top quality white gold mimics the platinum look but is neither super shiny (reflective) as silver so it’s plated with rhodium- a gorgeous metal but far too rare and expensive for gem ring settings…..and the rhodium plating must be re-done periodically depending on use.
Now stainless steel is being made into wedding bands…I have one, my everyday band…it’s been chemically ’sandblasted’ so the effect is like the sun shining on sand and making it sparkle…beautiful…I do EVERYTHING in that band and narey a nick or scratch….and you can’t tell the dif from expensive platinum either…and it wears like, well, steel lol….
Having said that consider rings that are two toned…gold & silver..that way you can wear any metal and your ring will match….also who ever said you can;t mix metals? Bah I do it all the time. It’s all a matter of personal preferance.
However, if a white metal you want in a band & you don;t like the way your yellow gold looks next to it…..you CAN wear the engagement ring on your right….in the USA the wedding band sits on the left ring finger….all other rings are negotiable…good luck, Toots.
It is perfectly OK to move the engagement ring to the right ring finger if it doesn’t match, fit or look well with the wedding band. The wedding band, however, is always on the left hand.
If your engagement band isn’t too ornate or wide, consider looking for a ring guard/jacket. It’s a band that is “split” in two (will have a couple of anchor points holding the two sides together) that the engagement ring fits inside of. The difference in metals won’t be as obvious, or will at least give the look of a two-tone setting.
I found a great editorial spread in the Spring InStyle Weddings called Twinsets & Odd Couples. It’s a pictorial on wedding ring combos. They showed Twinsets, Odd couples, and Mismatches. By far the Mismatches were the most interesting. Combining metals looked amazing! I’m afraid I couldn’t find a link online, but I think the magazine is still on the stands. I’m doing a Mismatch myself, a Tacori-style eternity ring as the wedding band for our civil ceremony now and an antique Victorian ring setting with my own diamonds added as the wedding ring for our formal ceremony in the fall and to be worn as “the engagement ring” thereafter.
Go for what catches your eye. If your thoughts keep going back to it, then it’s the one!
you could look for a wedding band that has both gold and silver, like the one below
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Scroll back up to wkdpixy’s Avatar and look at her profile page. It will lead you to look at her 360page and there is a picture of the wedding set there that she’s talking about in her answer. It is nice and My new wife and I are leaning in that direction for our rings.
You might also look into a jewelry craftsman’s process called flashing. It turns yellow gold white.
yes typically women wear their wedding band on their left ring finger and then the engagement ring on top of that on the same finger